Is My Sex Addiction My Fault?

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Is My Sex Addiction My Fault?One of the most common symptoms of addiction is a need to ascribe blame for the condition. Some addicts will blame others and take no responsibility for any choices they made along the way. Others will feel deep self-blame and shame that will prevent them from getting the help they so desperately need. Sex addiction is a particularly shame-ridden disorder for many people, but placing blame can be counterproductive to the healing process.

Understanding Sex Addiction

Behavioral addictions such as sex addiction or compulsive gambling, stealing, lying or thrill seeking are all rooted in the same psychological function as drug or alcohol addiction. Sexual behavior has a calming effect on the brain, and natural chemicals produced during sex give the brain temporary relief from underlying psychological distress. Individuals come to crave or rely on this relief, and they will no longer think logically about sex or be in control of their behaviors. Even when the addict wants desperately to control sex-related behavior, he or she often can’t without significant professional help.

The Root Causes of Sex Addiction

Experiencing a positive chemical response to sexual activity is completely natural. In a healthy person this process supports relational bonding and feelings of confidence and well-being. However for sex addicts sex and related behaviors problematic. This can happen for any of the following reasons:

  • Sexual abuse as a child
  • Early exposure to sexually explicit materials
  • A sensitive chemical system that is prone to addiction
  • Underlying psychological disorders such as depression or anxiety issues
  • A culturally-influenced choice to pursue sexual gratification beyond healthy boundaries

While it is normal for any teenager or adult to feel sexual longing, when a person finds that they simply cannot resist their cravings a destructive pattern may begin. This often involves the following:

  • Use of pornography and frequent masturbation
  • Frequent hook-ups with multiple partners
  • Dangerous sexual behavior such as cutting or autoerotic asphyxiation

If left untreated this kind of behavior leads to physical health problems, loneliness and depression. In the same way that tolerance to drugs or alcohol builds over time at some point no amount of sex will satisfy the addict.

Finding Lasting Freedom from Sex Addiction

Recovery from sex addiction involves professional techniques that are similar to those utilized in drug or alcohol rehab programs. The most effective programs identify any and all underlying or co-occurring psychological disorders and then develop specialized treatment plans to address them as well as the behavioral addiction. This often involves accountability, counseling, education and an introduction to healthy coping techniques and calming skills. The process can take months or even years and will often be something the recovering addict must be careful about for the rest of his or her life.

Real Help for Sex Addiction

If you are struggling with sex addiction, please call our toll-free helpline today. Our counselors are able to answer any questions you may have about this powerful disease and about your options for ending the control it has over your life. The call is confidential and free, so you have nothing to lose. Call today.